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3rd Act Magazine Interview

Jonathan Prescott is interviewed by author Connie McDougall for her article, Be Chill, My Heart: The Science Behind Heartbreak and How to Cope With It in 3rd Act, Fall 2019. We discuss how to face difficulty without becoming overwhelmed.

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Honoring Our Ancestors

Honoring our ancestors is an act of love. We didn’t appear out of thin air; those who came before us created the conditions necessary for us to live and (hopefully) thrive. Noticing and offering gratitude for those gifts honors our ancestors – and also brings us joy. Physical Ancestors Knowing who our ancestors are isn’t as simple as it seems. I look a lot like my parents, so I’m pretty confident that I’m related to the people who loved, fed, clothed, and raised me. But my intuition that ‘these folks are mine and those aren’t’ doesn’t survive close scrutiny. Anthropologists…

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Finding Stillness Within Chaos

This photo of a courtyard in the 800-year-old Liuyuan Garden in Suzhou, China is both true and untrue. It is, in fact, a beautiful, tranquil space that reflects the best of Chinese design. Yet I also had to wait a considerable time for the boisterous human visitors to clear before this peaceful photograph was possible. My practice while in China was to find stillness within chaos. The noise, crowds, confusion, and pollution were pervasive and confounded my usual way of being. Living on a quiet island, I have honed an ability to be present for whatever is present. But in…

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Alzheimer’s Association Q&A

This question and answer session was posted to the Alzheimer’s Association blog and reposted here. Enjoy! Jonathan Prescott is the founder of Wise Caregiving, a nonprofit dedicated to helping people become effective, sustainable and empathetic caregivers. Jonathan’s career as a hospice, cancer-care and hospital Chaplain, along with his spiritual practice as an ordained student of Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh, gives him a unique perspective on how to thrive within the helping professions. His trainings help people learn the arts of listening, balance, boundaries and presence as a therapeutic tool. Q: You’re presenting on “The Art of Listening” at the Discovery…

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Four Simple Ways To Offer Yourself Compassion

Caregivers are motivated by compassion. We see a need and jump in with both feet because we mistakenly believe that compassion asks us to give ourselves away. But true compassion cares for both giver and receiver. It leaves nothing out, including you. I’d like to propose four simple practices that bring you into the circle of compassion. These take no extra time. They aren’t one more thing to do. Rather, they change how you relate to activities you’re already doing so you can receive short bursts of refreshment throughout your day. Walking Walking is a miracle. Our young brains devoted…

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Finding Support

Caregiving can feel overwhelming. Whether we’re a solitary companion caring for our loved one or an unsupported professional laboring under a high caseload, it sometimes feels like we’re bearing more responsibility than we can carry.  Contemplative traditions have developed ways of mining deep wellsprings of energy and connection to help us become more effective and sustainable caregivers. One of those spiritual technologies is the practice of touching our essential interconnection using objects and rituals. Let’s look at how we can use this contemplative wisdom in our caregiving. Symbols of Connection Our culture tells us that we are separate. We value…

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The Five Gates of Grief

Caregivers can only offer others what they offer to themselves. Without this intimate clarity of self-awareness, we exhaust ourselves by imagining another’s pain and offering inauthentic responses. We risk being vehicles of pity rather than compassion. Grief is a universal experience, one that we need to know personally. Grief circles us all like planets orbiting the gravity of our suffering. No one is spared. Steven Levine wrote, ‘If sequestered pain made a sound, the world would be humming all the time.’ We can only hear and address the humming of our patients’ sequestered grief if we’re willing to hear our…

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This too shall pass

“This too shall pass.”  My mother would comfort me with these words when I was facing something difficult, like an earache or an hour in the dentist’s chair.  And her words rang true – those challenges did pass and I was eventually restored to my preferred condition.  But I also remember greeting her words with skepticism.  “Why do I have to face anything unpleasant?  Don’t tell me this will go away eventually.  Take it away now!” But it’s not just bad things that pass.  Everything passes.  No exceptions.  It doesn’t matter whether we consider the people and events of our…

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3 Reasons Why Compassion Makes You Happier Than Selfishness

Why should we act compassionately?  This is an important question for Westerners steeped in the Darwinian view that life is a selfish struggle.  If only the toughest survive, isn’t compassion towards others self-defeating?  The belief that we are primarily competitors makes it difficult to see the benefits of compassion.  But I’d like to suggest 3 ways in which we benefit by choosing compassion over selfishness. #1 – Reduced Stress Compassion is the natural human impulse to help relieve suffering.  Studies show that our compassionate feelings release oxytocin, the same hormone that creates the bond between mother and child and reduces…